I'm bored. So I'll just find any random topic to rattle about. (omg this is a RARE post!)
Let's talk about the basic social skills a.k.a making friends. I think there are 2 groups, "social butterflies" and "anti-social" people but I don’t think they can be mutually exclusive.
I see myself as this anti-social bitch that doesn't talk to people that I don't know. Yes, I may ask a few questions here and there to start a superficial conversation but I just won't open up to you unless I know you well enough. And when I mean open up, I mean laughing, crapping, bitching and all with you.
Having majority of my friends like that, I'm somewhat puzzled how the social butterflies operate. Around me, I’ve seen a few social butterflies. They can be friends with anyone; talking to someone they seen for a first time like old buddies, knowing almost every single person and opening up to them so easily. Yes they have truckloads of friends acquaintances, but at the end of the day how many can you call your true friends?
Where can you find the time to hang out with all your friends? Somehow or rather, you'll just hang out with the new friends you've found and forget about old ones. That’s just personally how I feel; I might be wrong because I ain't no social butterfly.
I think the worst feeling is the feeling of loneliness despite having tones of people around you.
I'm the kind that doesn't give a shit on how people strangers look at me. I've always been this stereotype of a high-maintenance, hard-core clubber, arrogant, stuck-up bitch. So? I don't need to prove myself to you insignificant people out there.
To me, it doesn't matter how people whom are not significant to me view me. But to some others, they are just so cautious of how EVERYONE looks at them. Why? Isn't it very tiring trying to please everybody?
No doubt, with that kinda attitude of mine I only have a handful of close, good friends. Which I see as enough. What's the point of having so many acquaintances? Can someone tell me?
Is it because it'll be easier to do things and achieve what you want by getting to know more people? Then the friendship isn't sincere because there's an ulterior motive. Or is it because you just can't spend time alone and constantly need to go out with a big group of company?
Eew. Yuck. I think I just don't like social butterflies. You'll never know their real reason for being friends with you, or anyone else.
Sunday, April 22, 2007
Posted by KIM ng at 1:08 AM